Tracking Down Your Soul Mate
Down Your Soul Mate
By Alina Ruigrok
we all dream about meeting the right person. . . the one that we are meant
to be with forever. Dreaming about it is all fun and easy, but the real
question is, where do you find this soul mate of yours? Fate? Well yes,
if you believe in fate, then yes, it will have something to do with it,
but not without effort on your part. Fate needs you to give it direction
so that as a team, you can find the person you have always wanted as a
part of your life.
The first thing you have to do before searching for
your soul mate is discovering yourself. What qualities are important to
you? What are your morals and beliefs? How do you show your affection
and how do you expect it to be presented to you? These are questions necessary
for you to ask yourself before going out there. Giving yourself an interview
will make things clearer of what type of person you are really looking
for, instead of just going on a blind search.
It is very common for a person to date people just
for "dating". While dating is a fun and enjoyable experience,
it is not advisable to just go out with anyone just to have a date, or
to enter a relationship because you do not want to be alone. When you
go out on a date, it is important that you use that date as an opportunity
to observe and see if the person is someone you would like to see again
and if they carry the qualities you are looking for. If, for example,
if you are searching for a person who is in touch with his or her romantic
side, but go on a date with someone who likes acting rough at baseball
games and loves hunting, then you could pretty much see where the relationship
would go. You should be able to sense these qualities after a few dates.
Once you have realized that these dates will not lead
to a relationship you have dreamed of, then obviously the person is not
your dream mate after all, and it would be best if you stop seeing each
other to prevent any misleading expectations. Continuing to date someone
just because you entered a comfort zone or do not want to hurt their feelings
will only hold you back from meeting who you are really meant to be with,
not to mention waste precious time for both you and your date's. Gently
break it to him or her that you find them to be a very interesting and
nice person, but you feel like going solo for a while and then move on.
Tracking down your soul mate will require a little
patience; so do not feel frustrated or discouraged if you do not find
him or her in a certain amount of time. Good things take time to be brought
together and you will come together when the time is right. The time becomes
right when you look out for the right signs. Such signs would be:
- Being strongly attracted to each other
- Being strongly attracted to each other's
- Having common interests.
- Sharing the same values.
- Major respect for one another.
- Someone who makes you feel truly special
- Someone who puts in a great effort to
show you their passion for you and the things that is important in your
- Meeting on the same emotional levels.
Those are some major and important signs to look out
for when trying to track down your soul mate. It will not be difficult
to realize because you will know when things are right and the way you
want it. When you have found such a person, it is good for you to remember
to take things one-step at a time. Sometimes people jump in too fast and
end up getting hurt or realizing they jumped to conclusions a little too
soon. Take it slow and observe how things are going. See if the person
who seems to be perfect in every way for you, remains to carry the same
qualities as the relationship proceeds.
When time has proven that the two of you are truly
compatible in ways you have always dreamed of, then the relationship may
go to the next level and the two of you can make a serious commitment
and start focusing on building a future together. Like before, it is important
that you pay attention to how you handle a commitment together and if
you both agree on what kind of future the two of have in mind. Staying
on the same levels is a huge sign that you are with the right person.
Finding your soul mate will the best accomplishment
you will ever make, but it does not stop there. Finding the right person
is just the beginning. Keeping the right person takes work too, on both
your parts. The two of you will have to continue valuing each other for
the rest of your lives, respecting each other's individuality and dreams.
Refresh your memory of how the two of were brought together and why you
both decided to make a commitment to one another. As long as you keep
the magic between you alive, your relationship will continue to grow the
love and care you both never imagined could ever happen to you!
About the author
Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship
expert for Love-sessions.com
helping those in need for dating, relationship, marital, sexual and other
personal advice through e-sessions.